What is the Cold War? In fact, I believe that everyone is very clear about what the Cold War is and what the consequences of the Cold War are. So why do so many people still choose this way of dealing with problems? I think it’s probably because of the other person’s love for them, but I have to remind everyone that no matter how good the relationship is, it will become cold. It'll be gone when it's cold, so take advantage of it and cherish it.
1. About cold violence
What is cold violence?
It is coldness, contempt, laissez-faire, alienation and indifference in a relationship. Language communication is kept to a minimum. Once the patience is exhausted, what follows is invincible cold violence.
I believe this is a reflection of some people’s personalities. I also believe that even if I am a super cold and aloof person, for The person you love will spend your whole life being gentle.
2. Never fight against the one you love
I don’t think the existence of a cold war in a relationship can be a moderator. When we often have quarrels and conflicts, some people will say, "Calm down first."
But calmness, is it minutes, hours or days?
If the calm period exceeds 5 hours, it is actually the beginning of a cold war.
I think that calmness between two people can help solve the problem better, but the truth is: being calm in any situation without finishing the conversation will really bring more misunderstandings and complaints to the two people.
Because calmness gives the arrogant party enough time and space to guess, be suspicious, and face countless disappointments The cold moment and the girl's disappointment are the result of repeated injuries and countless cold-hearted moments.
3. Don’t use the cold war to force people to break up
Sometimes relationships will enter a very sad state, as if both people are I obviously feel that this relationship has changed, that I am tired or not in love anymore, but no one is willing to be the one to solve the problem, so they just keep dragging it on, taking their time,
Until one of them is dragged to the point where he can't bear it anymore and says: Let's break up.
The other person responded without pain or itching, that’s good.
It seems that breaking up is something full of guilt, and it seems that the person who said the breakup is a bad person. But in fact, the person who doesn't break up in such a situation is the bad person.
Many people don’t know how to solve major problems and conflicts in relationships, so they choose to ignore many things. Live it up or cover it up until the day you can no longer choose to escape.
But in fact, the person who is truly responsible for the relationship and himself is when you find that you have no way to continue, give the other person a clear The answer is that all choices made by adults should have a beginning and an end.
4. Communication
In relationships, communication is really a It's very important. Saying one more sentence is communication. Say one more sentence, explain one more time, hug one more time. Maybe a lot of sorry will turn into I love you. What do you think?
