It is inevitable that couples will have quarrels and conflicts, but how to resolve these conflicts with warm words and make each other more understanding and tolerant? Several aspects will be discussed below.
1. Listen to the other party
When quarreling, the first thing to do is to listen to the other party. Don't interrupt the other person or rush to express your point of view. Only by truly listening to the other person's thoughts and feelings can we better understand the other person's position and needs.
For example, when your partner complains that you are too busy working to spend time with him/her, you can say: "I know I am really busy recently, but I understand that you need my company. I will try my best to adjust my time so that we can spend more time together. "This shows your understanding of the other person's feelings and your willingness to change.
2. Express your own feelings
In addition to listening to the other party, you must also learn to express your own feelings. However, pay attention to the tone and manner of expression and avoid overly excited or aggressive words.
For example, when your partner ignores your feelings, you can say: "I feel disappointed and ignored. I wish we could pay more attention to each other's feelings and solve problems together." own emotions and expectations instead of blaming the other person.
3. Use positive language
When quarreling, using positive language can relieve tension and resolve conflicts. Avoid using derogatory, offensive words and instead express your opinions with words of encouragement and support.
For example, when your partner makes a mistake, you can say, "It's okay, we all make mistakes. What's important is that we learn and grow together." This expresses understanding and support for the other person and allows them to The other person feels accepted and encouraged.
4. Find common solutions
When quarreling, don’t just argue about who is right and who is wrong. It’s about finding shared solutions. Through cooperation and communication, a mutually acceptable solution is found.
For example, when you are arguing about a travel destination, you can say: "There is no point in us arguing about the travel destination. We can find a place together that we are both happy with." Show that you are willing to work with the other party to solve problems.
5. Reaffirm love and care
When arguing, remember to reaffirm your love and care for the other person. Resolve conflicts by making the other person feel loved and cherished.
For example, when you are arguing about the uneven division of housework, you can say: "I know I'm not doing a good enough job at housework, but please believe that I really love you. We can discuss it together How to better allocate housework." This shows your love for the other person and your willingness to change.Changed attitude.
When couples quarrel, it is very important to use warm words to resolve conflicts. By listening, expressing, using positive language, finding joint solutions, and reaffirming love and care, you can increase mutual understanding and tolerance, making relationships stronger and happier.
