Feelings are mutual. If a relationship wants to last for a long time, it will definitely not be possible to rely on one person alone. Many men don't understand this truth and think that as long as they are good enough to a woman and pay enough, they can make the relationship last longer. But in fact, the result of doing so is just to make one's status in the eyes of women lower and lower, until he finally loses his attractiveness. So how should a man manage a relationship so that it lasts for a long time?
1. What is a sunk cost
< p> When people decide whether to do something, they not only look at whether it is good for themselves, but also look at whether they have already invested in this thing in the past. We call these irrecoverable expenditures, such as time, money, energy, etc., "sunk costs".Returning to our intimate relationship, if you only give blindly, then you will only create sunk costs for yourself, and will only make you dare not give up this relationship easily, and this relationship is not good for you. It is not so important to the other party. Therefore, if you want to make the relationship last longer, you need to increase the other party's sunk costs.
2. The more you give, the stronger the relationship will not necessarily be
But asking the other party to give does not mean that the more you give, the stronger the relationship will be.
The more emotions you have, the more stable you will be.
Because there are two kinds of psychology behind women’s giving: one is to give for you willingly, and she is very happy when she gives; the other is to have to give, and she is not reluctant to give.
Your relationship will get better and better if you give first. She is willing to pay for you, and she also gains a sense of security.
This kind of dedication is benign. Both of you have contributions and rewards. Girls get more attention and boys get more sense of accomplishment.
With this kind of dedication, not only will the other party be inseparable from you, but you will also be inseparable from the other party, because the feelings of both parties are fluid and both parties can feel the true connection of the feelings.
The second kind of giving will make one party feel insecure and the other party feel controlled.
A woman’s dedication is forcing herself, not out of her true inner thoughts, but because of her status as a “girlfriend” or her actions under external force. This kind of effort is not enjoyment for women.
You will not feel safe and satisfied because of this kind of dedication. This kind of relationship is very fragile. Both people feel that they are at a disadvantage, and they are likely to blame and complain about each other when encountering problems.
3. Good love requires mutual dedication
Maintaining a relationship cannot rely on the dedication of one person alone , the other keeps asking. A good relationship requires two people to give to each other.
Why are youDo you want the other person to stay away from you? Why do you want to catch the other person by guiding him to give?
Because you are afraid that your efforts will not be rewarded, and you are worried that one day he will leave you and you will be hurt. So you want to gain a sense of security by controlling your other half to pay for you.
A good relationship is not about giving blindly, nor is it about controlling others' contributions, but two people giving to each other from the bottom of their hearts.
You are willing to put effort into understanding the other person’s needs and dare to give. If she feels your love and you understand the value of giving, your emotions will naturally flow and your relationship will become more and more intimate.
